It used to be that sometime between 40 and 55 many people would have midlife crisis. Some would find themselves buying flash sports cars, having a fling, getting divorced, all in order to get them through this difficult period in their lives.

But today the quarter life crisis is more and more common. As a Life Coach I see many people in their mid twenties and thirties who are looking to get some help with their own equivalent of a Midlife crisis.

Many young career minded people are earning significant sums and they might have a house or two, a fancy car, even a great relationship, but for some reason something seems to be missing.

The crisis often happens precisely when everything seems to be going really well.

Often it is when you’ve got everything you thought you ever wanted.

In the past it would take half your life to get everything you wanted, but now some people are finding that they’ve got everything they want in their mid twenties!

You might have imagined that you’d be happy if you were making £40,000 + a year, if you had that cool house, car, went on that holiday, got married to that special person etc… But you’ve got all of that and more, or most of it, but hey guess what?

You’re still not truly and deeply happy! You’re not as happy as you thought you’d be, in fact you’re life feels a little bit grey and beige, you don’t really like your job, you haven’t had time to make your house a home, the holiday was nice but no matter, you didn’t feel the sunshine on the inside!

You seem to be stuck, unmotivated, slightly depressed, slightly unsure what you’re doing with your life and what it’s really all about. But you keep on distracting yourself, avoiding the questions, avoiding the sense of beige that is slowly enveloping your life.

You go on even more holidays, work even harder, buy a new car, a new house, a new gadget, hoping that you’ll feel better. But it works for a while not then that dull heavy feeling slowly creeps back.

So what’s the cure?

Simply, it’s about discovering more Meaning and Purpose in your life.

Asking yourself the bigger questions about what you think you’re doing here on this little planet.

What’s your purpose in life?

What is the meaning of life?

Does it have any meaning?

Is there more to life than what I can see?

Something else that can really dramatically help you get over your quarter life crisis is helping others.

Not just giving money to a good cause – which is a great idea, but also get yourself actively involved in helping others.

It might mean volunteering for a charity, feeding the homeless or helping people who are disadvantaged.

Also discovering who you really are, looking inwardly and finding the person you were before your headlong plunge into your career.

It’s also important to rediscover the simple pleasures of life.

Do you remember being a kid? You used to enjoy the simple things in life, things that were free, like riding your bike in the park, having a go on the swing, messing around friends, eating blackberries, picking daffodils from a neighbours garden, laying in the grass and that kinda stuff.

Three tips – to help you over your quarter life crisis.

1. Look for meaning and purpose in your life

2. Actively help others

3. Rediscover your pleasure in the simple things

For more help and advice get in touch…

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