Madonna has been throwing out all of Guy Richie’s stuff in an attempt to erase his memory from her life.
Now although this is an understandable and very human reaction to the pain, hurt and anger of the end of a relationship, this is only a stepping-stone to moving on.
There is an ancient story about the Israelites leaving Egypt, they were being chased by the Egyptian Army, when they got to the Red Sea and could go no further and didn’t know what to do.
There were five different opinions.
1.   Suicide
2.   Going back to be slaves
3.   Fight the Egyptians
4.   Pray and Asking for help
5.   Moving on – even though it seemed impossible
You can see these as different reactions to immensely difficult situations, or you can see them as different stages in a process of healing and moving on.
When a for whatever reason serious relationship ends, well can all have similar reactions, we can although many people don’t admit it, feel that life isn’t worth living.
We can wish that nothing had happened, perhaps we can fix the relationship and that it would all magically go back the way it was before the break-up?
We can fight and be angry with the other person and with ourselves, we can wish to destroy our ex-partners and erase them from our lives and our history.
But that doesn’t work either, because all that emotional energy is still directed at the past, at the person you’ve been hurt by, but the things in your life that make you feel angry and upset.
Chucking your ex’s stuff out of the window, may be somewhat therapeutic, but it doesn’t resolve the situation, and it doesn’t resolve the underlying feelings of pain and anguish.
You have to dig deeper within yourself and learn to let go of all that negative emotional stuff in a way that is safe and constructive.
Go speak to someone, a counsellor, God, a friend, physiotherapist, life coach, mentor or anyone or anything you trust and believe in.
They may not have any answers for you, and they may not have any advice, but they are there for you in your hour of need, they listen, they empathise and help you to resolve the crisis within yourself, so that you can begin to let go of the pain, and let go of the past and let go of the person you’ve been in a relationship with.
But ultimately we all need to stop getting advice or praying and meditating and move forward toward a happier and brighter future.
The secret of moving forwards is having a positive vision of your future, and having the courage to embrace the happier person you are destined to become.
