Only when their life is in utter crisis that people admit they need a bit of help and give me a call. It’s only when their relationship has ended, their job is on the line that they call.
What I say is why didn’t you call me six months earlier and you wouldn’t be in this mess to start with?!
I think it’s because most people believe that they can handle things by themselves, that they don’t need any help. Others live their whole lives believing that they have to be superheroes, putting on plastic smiles, lying to themselves and others that their life is ‘Fine!’ and that all they need to do is read a self help book to help them sort it out.
We’ve got a culture of DIY lifestyle makeovers and everyone seems to believe they can do it alone and don’t need any help. It encourages psychological independence which is a fantastic thing if you get it right, but not at the expense of our basic inter-dependence.
We all need help; we all need friends, family and community to talk to, and to discuses the things going on in our lives people to celebrate our successes and our challenges. But very few people are brave enough and honest enough with themselves to admit that they might actually benefit from an objective viewpoint, someone who isn’t family and can see your life from a different perspective, someone that can help them really make a success of their lives.
I think that for many people they didn’t know they had any type of choice about the type of life they lived.
Most of us just seem to survive, and move about in reaction to the particular needs of that moment, rather than realising that you do have far more control over your own destiny than you are aware of. And personally as a life coach I’d much rather focus on ‘success coaching’, helping people to become even more successful than they already are, rather than what seems to be ‘crisis coaching’.
I want to help people who are already successful in their own right become even more successful. I want to help people with businesses make even more money, I want to help them reduce the stress in their lives and help them to discover balance.
Just imagine you had someone in your life to help you sort your life out, someone friendly and professional, helping you to challenge your own self-limiting beliefs, helping you to become significantly wealthier, healthier and happier. Someone to help you create the life you want, to help you discover your dreams and make them become reality.
